Issues
Following are issues it makes sense to agree on before you make the decision to have a child with someone:
EDUCATION
-Will you send your children to private education if you could afford it ?
-Which denomination of private education will you send your children to ?
-Under what circumstances will you consider home schooling ?
-Will you try and counter harmful ideologies taught at school such as critical race theory, non biologically based theories of gender ?
-Will you teach your children critical thinking skills ?
-Will you expose your children to alternative media sources ?
-Will you protect your children from exposure to mainstream media ?
-Will you keep readily available religious texts and which ones ?
-Will you mandate weekly attendance at a religious service ?
-Which denomination will you take the children to ?
-Will you encourage your child to do their homework ?
-Will you encourage your child to go to college/university unless they have shown an interest in vocational/trade training ?
-Will you give equal opportunities to each gender ?
-Will you educate your child on good and not good attributes for a future spouse ?
-Will educate your child on the poor outcomes of children raised without both biological parents ?
-Will you educate your children on mental health and personality disorders ?
HEALTH
-Will you vaccinate your children at all ?
-Will you give your children any mental health drugs ?
-Will you try and scrutinise medical information wherever possible before giving your child a medical intervention ?
-How many doctors visits per year will you aim for a normal range healthy child ?
-Will you try and minimise antibiotics ?
-Will you try and minimise medical interventions ?
-Will you do whatever possible to prevent your children from taking medical interventions to disrupt normal gender functioning ?
-Will you make sure your children's teeth are brushed properly each day ?
-Will you try and minimise the amount of processed food in your children's diet ?
-Will you try and minimise the amount of pesticides and harmful chemicals in and around the home ?
HOME LIVING
-Will protect our children from physical, sexual and psychological abuse ( see https://www.divorcepizza.com/child-psychological-abuse )
-Will you encourage children to do household chores ?
-How much pocket money for a 5 year old ? 12 year old ? 16 year old ?
-Will you keep adult issues away from children ?
-What age will you allow a child to ride a bicycle on the road ?
-What age will you allow your child to watch sexualised movies ?
-Will you allow teenagers to have their girlfriends or boyfriends sleep in the same room with them ?
-What age will you allow your children to drink alcohol ?
-Will you prevent you children from getting drunk on alcohol ?
-Will you allow your child to take cannabis ?
-Will you allow your child to take any recreational drug or substance ?
-What bedtime will you require up to 5 years old up to 12 years old up to 16 years old ?
-Will you have the child sleep in the same bed with you from 0 to age 2 ?
-Will you allow the child to sleep in the same bed with you from 2 years onwards ?
-What is the maximum age the child can sleep in the same bed with you ?
-Will you avoid denigrating the other parent and their family ?
-Will you use a baby sitter alone with one child ?
-Will you allow dogs or cats or other pets in the house ?
OTHER ACTIVITIES
-Will you encourage children to take up organised sport ?
-Will you encourage children to stay with sports when they have lapses in enthusiasm in high school ?
-Will you encourage a child to pick one or 2 sports as a teenager and be dedicated to achieve ?
-Will you encourage a child to play a musical instrument ?
-Will you take the children on camping trips ?
-How much screen time will you allow your child each day ?
-Will you encourage time with relatives such as grand parents, cousins, uncles and aunts ?